• Complaining in a relationship
    Marriage,  Uncategorized

    How Complaining Negatively Impacts Your Relationship

    Complaining, nagging, moaning – some of us are very good at it and seem to spend most of our communication sharing our frustrations, dislikes, and opinions on things we’re unhappy with. For those people, it has become a habit or a learned pattern of behavior to have a heightened ability to give focused attention to all that is wrong, not working, and lacking. In marriage, the choice to use complaining as your go-to tool for expressing how you feel or attempting to cause change could be doing more damage to your relationship than you are aware of. Like a silent killer, continual complaining can have traumatic results on your spouse…

  • Great communication

    4 Keys to Great Communication In Marriage

    One of the most important pillars by far in any relationship is communication. And when I say “any” relationship I mean ALL relationships—whether that be friendships, working relationships, and of course marriage. Arguably, the nature of marriage may require greater communication skills than any other relationship because the success of the marriage is determined by two people’s ability to intertwine their individual lives into one. Listen, that is simply not possible without great communication. The whole ‘two becoming one’ thing takes a lot of talking, listening, and understanding in order to create something that, according to natural laws is not even possible! However, it IS possible, and countless couples around…

  • Not in the mood for sex
    Marriage,  Uncategorized

    Not in the mood for sex? 

    After several years of marriage, becoming a little complacent, the busyness of life, and many other factors – it’s a fact that a lot of couples can lose the passion they once had for their sexual encounters and find themselves regular feeling like they are not in the mood for sex. Like with other things in life, the less you do it – the less you think you need it – even if that thing is an absolute necessity!  Just like any other habit that you have inadvertently distanced yourself from, getting motivated to partake in sex when you’re ‘not in the mood’ can feel very much like a chore.…

  • 5 things to say to your husband everyday

    5 Things To Say To Your Husband Everyday

    What should you say to your husband every day to make sure he is feeling the love in your communication? They say that good communication is the absolute bedrock of a great marriage, and I also believe that you should be very strategic and intentional about your communication. So if you want to begin to use communication strategically to bring healing into your marriage, to improve your relationship, the intimacy between you and your husband, and to create an environment that is full of love – I have five phrases that you need to include in your daily communication marriage. #1 What Can I Do For You? The first one…

  • Newlyweds Get A Home Together

    Newlyweds First Home Should Be A New Home

    You have been renting for years, or maybe you’ve bought your home and put your loving stamp on it. Surely, now that you’ve gotten married it makes sense for your spouse to move in with you. Or maybe you’re quite happy to say goodbye to your palace and move into your new life partner’s house and claim that as your marital home. From a financial and ‘ease-of-life’ point of view, either one of those options would make absolute sense…wouldn’t it? Well, yes….I guess. Maybe in the short run. And definitely, there are people who have gone that route and have successfully merged their lives seamlessly. However, I have seen plenty…

  • peaceful marriage

    Are You Exchanging Your Peaceful Marriage For Pride?

    Peace peace peace! It’s one of those things that you really don’t value or appreciate until you live without it then gain it in abundance. Mr. Chiwoko and I really didn’t appreciate the invaluable benefits of living in with peaceful marriage. After years of fighting to win, we have come to realise that being able to walk away from a lengthy back and forth argument just doesn’t compare to seeking for peace wherever possible. The benefits of peace are numerous, including good health and a fortified marital relationship. More benefits of peace. Now as I look back, I realise that we were actually exchanging our peace for pride! It was…

  • Marriage

    11 Quotes For The Newly Wed

    Marriage starts after the wedding day. Amidst all the excitement of the white dress, the beautiful decor, the cake and the guests, remember that you are promising each other forever. It’s easy to stay married when everything is sunshine and rainbows but what do you do when problems arise? Here are some quotes I found that you can live by to help you on this journey. Congratulations for embarking on life’s journey called marriage which is either a two way street between compromise and sacrifice or a one way street to divorce. (Anonymous) Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love and they blossom when we love the…

  • Lifestyle,  Marriage,  Uncategorized

    Pros and Cons of Joint Accounts for Married Couples

    As a married couple your finances and the management of your money will be an important aspect of your lives together. You may be considering whether you need to have a joint account or whether maintaining your individual accounts will be the best way to manage your money as a couple. Well, for sure I am for married couples having a joint account but rather than giving you all the good aspects, I figured I would also give you the downsides to having a joint account…and there are a few. I hope it helps. As usual, leave me a comment and let me know what you think.

  • How to set financial goals as a married couple
    Marriage,  Uncategorized

    How To Set Financial Goals As A Married Couple

    When it comes to important areas of marriage that couples need to discuss regularly and that if not approached correctly can cause major issues, finances appear high on the list. For various reasons, many couples struggle to really get to grips with their finances and find it hard to be completely united in approaches. This is partly because of differing attitudes towards money and avoiding real planning around the finances of the family.