• Complaining in a relationship
    Marriage,  Uncategorized

    How Complaining Negatively Impacts Your Relationship

    Complaining, nagging, moaning – some of us are very good at it and seem to spend most of our communication sharing our frustrations, dislikes, and opinions on things we’re unhappy with. For those people, it has become a habit or a learned pattern of behavior to have a heightened ability to give focused attention to all that is wrong, not working, and lacking. In marriage, the choice to use complaining as your go-to tool for expressing how you feel or attempting to cause change could be doing more damage to your relationship than you are aware of. Like a silent killer, continual complaining can have traumatic results on your spouse…

  • Great communication

    4 Keys to Great Communication In Marriage

    One of the most important pillars by far in any relationship is communication. And when I say “any” relationship I mean ALL relationships—whether that be friendships, working relationships, and of course marriage. Arguably, the nature of marriage may require greater communication skills than any other relationship because the success of the marriage is determined by two people’s ability to intertwine their individual lives into one. Listen, that is simply not possible without great communication. The whole ‘two becoming one’ thing takes a lot of talking, listening, and understanding in order to create something that, according to natural laws is not even possible! However, it IS possible, and countless couples around…

  • Not in the mood for sex
    Marriage,  Uncategorized

    Not in the mood for sex? 

    After several years of marriage, becoming a little complacent, the busyness of life, and many other factors – it’s a fact that a lot of couples can lose the passion they once had for their sexual encounters and find themselves regular feeling like they are not in the mood for sex. Like with other things in life, the less you do it – the less you think you need it – even if that thing is an absolute necessity!  Just like any other habit that you have inadvertently distanced yourself from, getting motivated to partake in sex when you’re ‘not in the mood’ can feel very much like a chore.…

  • Emotionally unavailable
    Single life

    Dating the Emotionally Unavailable – The Surprising Truth

    If you’re dating someone who is emotionally unavailable, you’ll probably wind up feeling neglected and dissatisfied. Maybe they disappear for days at a time or fail to return your phone calls. Maybe they say they want a relationship, but they criticise you for trying to label it. There are many different causes and symptoms related to being distant. You may even be surprised to know that the situation could have as much to do with you as with your partner, especially if it’s a pattern for you. Emotional unavailability poses serious obstacles to love and commitment, but you may be able to work things out. Put your love life back…

  • 5 things to say to your husband everyday

    5 Things To Say To Your Husband Everyday

    What should you say to your husband every day to make sure he is feeling the love in your communication? They say that good communication is the absolute bedrock of a great marriage, and I also believe that you should be very strategic and intentional about your communication. So if you want to begin to use communication strategically to bring healing into your marriage, to improve your relationship, the intimacy between you and your husband, and to create an environment that is full of love – I have five phrases that you need to include in your daily communication marriage. #1 What Can I Do For You? The first one…

  • Newlyweds Get A Home Together

    Newlyweds First Home Should Be A New Home

    You have been renting for years, or maybe you’ve bought your home and put your loving stamp on it. Surely, now that you’ve gotten married it makes sense for your spouse to move in with you. Or maybe you’re quite happy to say goodbye to your palace and move into your new life partner’s house and claim that as your marital home. From a financial and ‘ease-of-life’ point of view, either one of those options would make absolute sense…wouldn’t it? Well, yes….I guess. Maybe in the short run. And definitely, there are people who have gone that route and have successfully merged their lives seamlessly. However, I have seen plenty…

  • peaceful marriage

    Are You Exchanging Your Peaceful Marriage For Pride?

    Peace peace peace! It’s one of those things that you really don’t value or appreciate until you live without it then gain it in abundance. Mr. Chiwoko and I really didn’t appreciate the invaluable benefits of living in with peaceful marriage. After years of fighting to win, we have come to realise that being able to walk away from a lengthy back and forth argument just doesn’t compare to seeking for peace wherever possible. The benefits of peace are numerous, including good health and a fortified marital relationship. More benefits of peace. Now as I look back, I realise that we were actually exchanging our peace for pride! It was…

  • Single life

    Dear Single lady – 8 Things a Single Lady Can Do on Valentines Day

    February 14th is a couple’s day! A day two people who love each other can reminisce on all the reasons they’ve chosen each other. But when you are single, it can be a dreaded day of loved up couples on social media, hand-holding everywhere you go, smiles and kisses, and all the things that remind you how single you are.  However, it doesn’t have to be a bad day! I’ve compiled some ideas of what you can do to make it a special day for yourself, and why shouldn’t it be all about you? You know what they say -” if you can’t love on yourself how can you love…

  • Single life

    How to make celibacy easier

    In today’s society, not having sex is taboo. ‘How else can you show you love someone? It’s just sex, no big deal’, ‘It brings us together’ ‘if he doesn’t get it here, he will find it else where’ or the classic ‘we are getting married anyway’. These are all myths that I’m wiping out right now. Sex is beautiful but can be destructive when had out of the constitution of marriage. Sex is an exchange. Everything your partner has, you inherit by opening up that part of you. As a Christian practicing celibacy whilst in a relationship, there are procedures I’ve had to put in place to make sure I…