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  • Writer's pictureAdaeze Chiwoko

Taking Advantage of Each Other for a Harmonious Relationship

Updated: Jul 18, 2023

Hey, it's Adaeze here again your marriage & relationship coach

Let's dive a little bit into why it is okay to take advantage of your spouse. Now wait! I know this sounds a little new to you, but I promise to break it down, and by the end of this blog, you'll agree with me that it is okay. And hey, I see you practising this soon.

In relationships, the idea of taking advantage of one another usually carries negative connotations. However, in the context of a harmonious and powerful marriage, it can be a transformative concept. I want to share with you the importance of embracing and appreciating the differences between partners rather than expecting them to mirror our thoughts, actions, and perspectives. By understanding and leveraging these inherent dissimilarities, couples can build a stronger and more peaceful bond. Let's explore how taking advantage of each other's unique qualities can lead to a truly harmonious relationship.

Recognizing Individual Perspectives:

Many times, couples find themselves questioning their partner's choices, actions, and behaviour. Phrases like "Why did you do it that way?" or "I wouldn't have approached it like that" are common during arguments or disagreements. These statements stem from the misconception that our partners should perceive the world in the same way we do. However, it's crucial to remember that we are not only shaped by our upbringing and backgrounds but also fundamentally different due to our gender and innate qualities.

Understanding Gender Differences:

Men and women naturally possess distinct ways of navigating through life, seeing things, and approaching situations. Expecting our partners to mirror our thoughts and actions disregards the inherent dissimilarities between masculine and feminine perspectives. For instance, when a wife questions her husband's approach to a situation, she might be implying that he should have approached it more like a woman would. In turn, the husband might expect his wife to think from a male point of view. It is essential to acknowledge and appreciate these differences instead of comparing or competing with them.

Taking Advantage of Differences:

Rather than viewing these differences as points of contention, we should start leveraging them as valuable assets in our relationships. When we stop comparing and competing, we can begin to appreciate and take advantage of each other's unique gifts, perspectives, and approaches to life. This shift in mindset allows for a more harmonious and powerful marriage. After all, the beauty of being in a partnership lies in the fact that both individuals bring different qualities, insights, and strengths to the table.

Appreciating Feminine Gifts:

For husbands reading this, it's essential to recognise the natural feminine gifts that your wife possesses, particularly when she operates from her feminine energy. One such gift is intuition, which women often possess in greater abundance than men. While men may have some level of intuition, it is crucial to acknowledge and appreciate the depth of your wife's intuitive abilities. By valuing and tapping into her intuition, you can enhance decision-making processes, deepen understanding, and foster a stronger connection within your relationship.


Taking advantage of each other's differences does not imply exploitation or manipulation; rather, it involves appreciating and leveraging the unique qualities and perspectives that each partner brings to the relationship. By embracing these differences instead of expecting uniformity, couples can create a harmonious, flowing, and powerful marriage. Remember, the ultimate goal is not to compare or compete but to appreciate and celebrate one another's gifts. So, let us treasure the inherent dissimilarities and use them as stepping stones toward a more fulfilling and transformative relationship.

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